As of Saturday, March 9, 2013
Time for learning
To the editor:
Grief and grieving can be an important time for learning, as it is a normal process of human suffering, which is usually prompted by a serious loss in our lives. Whether the loss is real or only imagined, to grieve is often painful anyway.
The pain we can experience in our grief includes: disbelief/denial, confusion, anger and sadness. Unusual emotions “highs and lows” may be felt and even some unexpected physical symptoms can occur. It is doubly important to maintain good health and hygiene practices in order to prevent inadvertently extending the grieving process.
It is true that in dealing appropriately with our problems, conflicts and disappointments, important opportunities often arise that can help us learn more about ourselves, our lives, our relationships and about right living. This is also a chance to help us gain maturity and to grow in good character, which is a lifelong goal for each one of us.
If I have the courage, humility and patience to look honestly within myself, I may discover what Viktor Frankl, psychiatrist and author, names “the wisdom of the subconscious mind.” Then I may understand that my subconscious mind works to alert me, even to warn me, when I am on a wrong path. That is, that I am doing something that places me in harm’s way and that some changes in my lifestyle are in order ASAP.
The changes may be something I need to stop doing or to do less of, or to do more or to do differently. Whatever it is, I must find out and make improvement. I may need a professional to help me explore, discover and deal appropriately and adequately with my problems.
It is worth my effort to make necessary changes, for then I wake up to good feelings of profound relief, gladness and new-found freedoms. I find that I have renewed by faith, hope, love, gratitude and improved relationships, and have learned new happiness.
All of life can be a learning process, especially when I rely on the quiet “wisdom of my subconscious mind.” Frankl explains that it may even be a connection to a caring God.